Small Group Counseling:
You want your child to show respect for you, his teachers, and people in general—not to mention respect for rules and belongings. Teaching respect is a big job. But thankfully, research shows a specific method to use.
Children learn respect when they are treated with respect. So make these simple efforts a daily habit:
· Communicate with respect. Listen attentively to your child. Don’t interrupt. Make sure you understand what he is saying. Focus on the positive.
· Practice solving problems calmly. Use “I statements” (“I feel ignored when you don’t answer me”) instead of hurtful accusations (“You always ignore me.”).
· Take responsibility. When you make an agreement with your child, stick to it—and expect him to do the same. If something goes wrong, the person responsible should make amends and learn from the experience.
· Care for Belongings. Cleaning up is a way of showing respect for things around the house. Talk about this with your child. What if no one pitched in? What steps, such as organizing toys, could make the job easier?
· Be encouraging. Support your child’s interests and strengths. Talk about values, including those your family has passed down for generations. What does your child value? How can he show this? Strong character should be a source of pride.
Source: “What Does ‘Strong Character’ Mean? II,”